While I have been a singer and songwriter for most of my adult years, I have always had a deep interest in finding ways to live a happier and more integrated life. I have spent a lot of time on planes and in quiet rehearsal rooms – and there, I have thought often about “ways to be happy.”

I believe that the seed of happiness stems from being at peace with where one is heading in life; with having purpose that satisfies certain primal hungers; and with having the ability to love and be loved. I see these life qualities as a deep river that flows steadily and progressively through the years.

But we humans move in and out of these waters so often in our modern, chaotic world, that sometimes we can only cling to a few practical ways to bring a little happiness back into our lives when the river seems to have dried up. And so I suggest these two simple, yet powerful “ways to be happy” that I have found to be very helpful during the dry seasons.

TAKE A REST FROM FEAR (Ways to be Happy)

The human mind is a wonderful thing, but sometimes it needs to “take a powder” – especially when it comes to the daily onslaught of fears that fill our thoughts: fear of loss; of not  px7 primal flow reviews having enough; of not being wanted or loved; of not fulfilling our spouses’ desires; of darkness (both inner and outer); of falling down; of failing; of succeeding and not being able to cope; of having harmed our children or not caring enough for our parents; of being ‘found out;’ of getting sick; of dying a painful death… The list of fears that float in and out of the mind goes on and on.

And these thoughts define to some or to a great degree – our lives. More often than not we live and make decisions through a veil of irrational fear that limits our ability to be happy.

While I know that we will always live with fear – it is part of being human – what I do suggest is that we take a break – or rather, many planned breaks from fear. Here is one simple way to leap back into the flow of water that connects us to our bigger, happier selves.


A close singer friend of mine was recently diagnosed with a rare and difficult form of cancer. As a gift, a friend of hers recorded 8 CDs filled with carefully-chosen beautiful music that she hoped would be like a “friend cheering her on from the sidelines,” as she went through the painful process of chemo and radiation therapy.

This unique gift of music touched my friend very much. She has already begun to call on those songs (both popular and classical) when she is feeling afraid or apprehensive about coming events.

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